How to Attract Your Perfect Life Partner
Everyone wants to have satisfying relationships in their life, and the most significant is with your romantic partner. This person may or may not become your husband or wife, but your primary loving relationship is of upmost importance to your happiness and health.
How does one attract that perfect life partner? I have had many conversations over the years with friends who were frustrated in love. They could easily list the qualities they were looking for in their significant other. These often included physical attractiveness, health, ambition or career, character, honesty, sense of humor, monetary stability, or a myriad of other characteristics.
Having an idea of what you’re looking for is a good place to start, and certainly having some boundaries and knowing what you will NOT tolerate is also important. But I find that people are often missing a key component in their thinking. There may be a reason that they are not attracting these people into their life.
My advice is this: Make yourself the kind of person you are looking for. Like really does attract like! Work to cultivate those qualities in yourself that you find desirable in others.
This seems self-evident, but I think people often miss this piece of the equation. I have had friends who shared their desire for a man who was in great shape, with muscles and physical vitality. But these same friends were not bringing those qualities to the world. Let’s be honest, that gym guy is most likely also looking for a fitness enthusiast to date. Of course there are always exceptions to these rules, but I think this holds true most of the time.
If you want someone who has a thriving career and financial stability, make sure you are working to create those same things in your own life. To attract an honest person you must be one also. If you want your partner to be a great conversationalist, become one yourself.
If you’re on this quest, I recommend that you take some time to write down the list of qualities you desire, then make an honest assessment of which ones you also possess. Then get to work becoming the type of person you want in your life.
Focus on this work in your own life, become a person bringing these great qualities to the world, and the universe will bring the right person to you! You can do it!
Art: Three Hearts by Lee Vandergrift
Tim Hinton
May 21, 2021
